Expectation, Expectation, Expectation, Who?

Why do we do what we do? The clothes we put on, the food we consume, the chores we do, the work we accomplish, and all of the extracurricular activities we take a part in.

  • Is it to live a better life?
  • Is it to be happy?
  • Is it to please everyone around us?
  • Do we reach happiness only by living up to the standards of others?


When someone pushes us to achieve a certain status, we begin to think that is what we want. Their dreams become our dreams. We wear the identity they have been so quick to hand us.

If we aren’t careful, we start to believe the lie we want what everyone else wants for us.


Go to college, another layer. Eat organic, another layer. Hang out with this group, another layer. Be a straight ‘A ‘student, another layer. Go to law school, another layer. Have children, another layer. Exercise, another layer. Get married, another layer. Save your money, another layer. Host the party, another layer. Keep your house spotless, another layer.

As we pack on everyone else’s hopes, dreams, and possibly selfish intentions–the weight will begin to wear us down. DSCN2207

What once felt easy is now never-ending. What once brought us joy is an inconvenience. What once got us out of bed in the morning keeps us there.

After endless hours, months, and years, finally the goal is attained and something unbelievable happens. We feel completely unsatisfied and unhappy as ever.

Why? Because we were living a life not our own. The layers of expectations others put on us became a reality and it still wasn’t good enough.


Slowly, we begin to peel the layers off. The dreams we dreamt were someone else’s. The more we take off, the easier it is to move. Life fills our body once more.

Our hopes and dreams had no chance to shine under all of those muddy layers we were wearing. It’s time to give back the borrowed dreams to their original owner!

Maybe some of our hopes and dreams do line up with the expectations others want to put on us. But we must kindly decline their offer. It fits them better anyway. 🙂

IMG_0051Go to college, because it’s your dream. Get married, because it’s your dream. Be a parent, because it’s your dream. Have a clean house, because it’s your dream. Become a writer, because it’s your dream. Play a pro sport, because it’s your dream. Travel, because it’s your dream. Exercise, because it’s your dream. Open a charity, because it’s your dream.

Whatever you chose to do, make sure you are passionate about it. Not to sound cliche’, but you are the only you there is! Everyone else really is taken and it’s nothing short of tiring trying to be something you’re not. Go be you.


Who’s expectations are you wearing? 

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22 Responses to Expectation, Expectation, Expectation, Who?

  1. Julia Putzke says:

    Wow–this is how I’ve lived my life. I’m really working on (or allowing God) to show me how to be me. Slowly. Thank you for the reminder. ❤

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  2. humblygrowing says:

    My dream is a messy house! Jk! Just a well lived in house. 🙂 I love this post! It’s so true… I have fought hard to not fall into the expectations of others!

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    • lightthelie says:

      HA! Yeah… I am living your dream right now… lol I will be cleaning as soon as I finish this reply 😉 Thank you for your kind words, as always, so good to hear from you! It’s easy to fall to the expectations. If I don’t stop to evaluate my life every once and a while I get caught in the trap! ❤ May all your dreams and desires come true Laura!


  3. Lori says:

    This also makes me think of the sometimes unfair expectations we put on others. Enjoyed reading your words, as always. 😊


  4. LM says:

    Note to self. Become a lazy bum. You will be much happier =D.


  5. beingeternal says:

    “Everyone else is taken” You have said it very brilliantly. It is so true that we take on others’ dreams, their makes, their takes, their words, theirs selves and end up being second rated version of ourselves. We hardly dare to come out of our box of insecurities. We always try to reach the bar which others have set for us and forget to realize that there is no bar to what we can achieve. Amazing and incredible post Emily. Thanks for such wonderful wisdom. Stay wise!. 🙂


    • lightthelie says:

      I’m so thankful to hear you fully got the message I was trying to get across! And can I say how much I love the line you just wrote, “We always try to reach the bar others have set for us and forget to realize that there is no bar to what we can achieve.” Wow! That is so inspiring. Both my husband and I are sitting here trying to take in the encouragement of that message. You are such an inspiration to me 🙂 thank you!

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      • beingeternal says:

        My Pleasure Emily! Thanks for liking my words. Dont pass on all the credit to me dear. WE are here inheriting boost from others….. keeping some for our selves and passing on the extra to some others. A big sphere on the roll. But seriously, you have come up with a valid and much required awareness. It is high time to realize self worth and self dreams. Love your thoughts…… smartly put.
        Big HELLO to your hubby and a warm hug to the lil angel (hoping she is around too). Stay blessed all of you. 🙂


  6. Lisette Defoe says:

    Hello… Thank you for visiting my blog. I hope you found something that blessed you. I will be sharing soon on some more dreams, visions and things I sense the Lord speak to me in quiet times. You also keep up this great work! 🙂 have a great day!


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