Why do we do what we do? The clothes we put on, the food we consume, the chores we do, the work we accomplish, and all of the extracurricular activities we take a part in.
- Is it to live a better life?
- Is it to be happy?
- Is it to please everyone around us?
- Do we reach happiness only by living up to the standards of others?
When someone pushes us to achieve a certain status, we begin to think that is what we want. Their dreams become our dreams. We wear the identity they have been so quick to hand us.
If we aren’t careful, we start to believe the lie
we want what everyone else wants for us.
Go to college, another layer. Eat organic, another layer. Hang out with this group, another layer. Be a straight ‘A ‘student, another layer. Go to law school, another layer. Have children, another layer. Exercise, another layer. Get married, another layer. Save your money, another layer. Host the party, another layer. Keep your house spotless, another layer.
As we pack on everyone else’s hopes, dreams, and possibly selfish intentions–the weight will begin to wear us down.
What once felt easy is now never-ending. What once brought us joy is an inconvenience. What once got us out of bed in the morning keeps us there.
After endless hours, months, and years, finally the goal is attained and something unbelievable happens. We feel completely unsatisfied and unhappy as ever.
Why? Because we were living a life not our own. The layers of expectations others put on us became a reality and it still wasn’t good enough.
Slowly, we begin to peel the layers off. The dreams we dreamt were someone else’s. The more we take off, the easier it is to move. Life fills our body once more.
Our hopes and dreams had no chance to shine under all of those muddy layers we were wearing. It’s time to give back the borrowed dreams to their original owner!
Maybe some of our hopes and dreams do line up with the expectations others want to put on us. But we must kindly decline their offer. It fits them better anyway. 🙂
Go to college, because it’s your dream. Get married, because it’s your dream. Be a parent, because it’s your dream. Have a clean house, because it’s your dream. Become a writer, because it’s your dream. Play a pro sport, because it’s your dream. Travel, because it’s your dream. Exercise, because it’s your dream. Open a charity, because it’s your dream.
Whatever you chose to do, make sure you are passionate about it. Not to sound cliche’, but you are the only you there is! Everyone else really is taken and it’s nothing short of tiring trying to be something you’re not. Go be you.
Who’s expectations are you wearing?