Life is busy. Can you agree? We run from task to task, checking off each item on our list. Somehow the list never ends. There is always something else. Another chore, another assignment, another diaper to change. All of our demands can make us lonely! When is there time for friendship when we have 27 things on our to-do list today?!
That friend we’ve been meaning to call continues to get pushed down our list of things to do. We tell ourselves, “the car really, really needs to be washed, they’ll understand if I call tomorrow.” But tomorrow is filled with just as much busyness! So how can we make room for both? (Because, yes I understand that if the car doesn’t get washed the paint might chip… yadda yadda.)
When we wait for others to invite us to relationship, we can begin to feel unwanted. We can fill up our lives with many tasks to feel worth something, but the laundry will never fill the void only a friend can.
What if every time we ran to Target we invited someone to come along? We all have to go to the store, we might as well go together! What about dinner? We all need to eat! What about working out? Or washing your car?
A once a month coffee date won’t be able to even touch one of these friendships! These friends get to do life with you. They get to find out what kind of milk you drink and chips you eat. You know what their week looks like and what’s on their to-do list. They are willing to wait until tomorrow to get to Costco because they would rather go with you. They are the best friends.
Life is so much better when we do it together! The lie that we have to wait for someone else to ask us into relationship is out in the open. We no longer have to be the ‘RSVP’– WE get to be the invitation! How great is that?